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Do you speak more than you listen?

I am referring to the time when the Internet was not invented and we relied on the experience of our elders and books for answers to our inquisitive questions or to  increase our knowledge. I still remember, there used to be a book in our house called Why Does This Happen? in which questions of science were answered with logic. For example, "If the earth is moving so fast, why don't we feel it? Or how does our body's immunity system actually work? I used to read that book with great interest. In those times, whenever we were curious about anything and the answer was not found in our books, we used to ask either our parents or a teacher about it.

I had a similar incident. One time in class, our History teacher was telling us about an atom bomb being dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. I interrupted and asked, “Why is such there a thing as an atomic bomb that kills so many people  instantly?" The level of curiosity was so high that I forgot that it was a History class and not Science. 

This was also the time when if another person was speaking in a mutual conversation, we would first listen carefully to him or her and then answer them.

But for the last few years, because of getting answers to all our questions from Google, our curiosity has been almost lost, along with the habit of asking questions to fellow humans. We now prefer to seek answers on the Internet through various websites instead.

This has two side effects. One of them is that we have started talking less to humans and more to computers. Secondly, people have become so full of information inside them from the Internet that whenever two people talk amongst themselves, they are more interested in sharing their thoughts rather than listening to each other. A person does not believe what the others say until he can check their credibility on Google.

This happens often now. People start talking about themselves instead of listening to each other in a mutual conversation. They often cut your point in-between and say something like, "Yes, I also read about it on the Internet," or "Yes I know it, I have read it on Google.”

But do you know that this habit of ours is ending the beauty of mutual conversation between people and it is also telling the speaker that his knowledge is not needed now because "We can look it up on Google."

I would like to elaborate with some examples as to why we need to interact more with humans instead of the Internet and start speaking only after listening carefully to them.

Experience always wins over book knowledge

If someone is sharing their experience, the quality of that will always be better than any bookish knowledge or talk written on the same topic on Google. If you listen to it carefully, it will benefit you.

Speaking hurriedly is a mistake

Trying to speak fewer words or answer too quickly without listening to the other person's words in a mutual conversation can prove to be stupid because your brain has not captured the full meaning of their words and instead, it has been working on giving an answer quickly. You might have felt this, when someone said to you, “Hey man, listen to the whole thing before answering."

Listening gives a good impression 

When you listen to the other person fully and carefully, and then you give your point, he feels happy that his part of the conversation has been appreciated. This creates a good relationship between the two of you.

You may find a hidden gem

When you listen to the other person until they are finished, without saying your words in between, you might get some information on that topic that you were not expecting. This happens when you remain silent for a few moments after listening to the other person talk and in those moments, the other person gives you some information that was completely outside the scope of your knowledge.

People will listen to you only when you listen to them

When you listen to others, they listen to you too. Otherwise, it doesn't take long to create an atmosphere where whenever you talk in-between other people talking, as soon as you start speaking, they also start behaving in a similar manner.

The essence of this article is this:

Try to speak less and listen more. Instead of turning to Google, talk to people more experienced than yourself and ask them questions. Debate on good topics so that you can get accurate and reliable answers to the questions of life.